Roleplay: A Playground for the Creative Spanko Mind
I was thinking about roleplay and why I enjoy it so much, as well as why for me, it is more than just play acting. I was also thinking about what it takes to create a good roleplay. I imagine this will end up being a series of posts rather than just one because I have done quite a bit of thinking on the subject and I am sure that will translate into quite a bit of verbiage ;)
So why roleplay? What's in it for me? For us?
Roleplay is about freedom.
I know for some, playing a role, someone other than themselves, may seem silly or "too fake". The idea of dressing up in a short plaid skirt and being spanked like a schoolgirl may seem foolish. But I love roleplays, especially those that by the nature of their dynamic, hit my major emotional and psychological triggers.
Roleplay gives me freedom...it allows me to express myself. In my daily life I am confined to various roles... personality characteristics that represent just *part* of who I am. I am confined to a particular role with my family, peers, and in my community. Getting out of my usual role frees me from the inhibitions and baggage that goes with it.
Am I saying that the inhibitions or baggage associated with my "regular life" are bad? No... what I am saying is that I, like most, have a multidimensional personality and roleplay affords me the opportunity to express those other parts of myself... my inner parts that I have a harder time expressing. It releases me from the restrictions *I* put on myself in my daily life.
Why is it that children dream of being fairy princesses... brave knights fighting fearsome dragons... racecar drivers in the Indy 500? Because it is fun...fantasy is fun and because they get to be something they aren't in real life. They get to exhibit behaviors and "try on" characteristics associated with those roles.
And adult role play? Well similarly, it gives me the chance to be someone else - without all the difficulties of actually changing my life. I get to play a character with traits I want to explore, I can pick and choose the characteristics and attributes that suit my desires, and discard the rest. And I can do it for a finite period of time.
Roleplay can make me feel strong, powerful... and right.
There isn't a lot of room for insecurity in roleplay. Fantasies may seem too weird, too kinky, too wrong, too abnormal and it takes courage to own them, speak them out loud and ultimately, indulge in them. The wonderful thing about roleplay is that it is fantasy, not reality and being able to share it with someone who "gets it"... well, that's pretty damn cool.
Roleplaying is a way for me to say it out loud.
Finding Professor was a big self esteem builder because I found someone who not only listened to my "weird, kinky needs" but also shared them. He made me feel normal... confident that my kink was okay... that I was okay.
Roleplaying allows me to express my inner self. It allows me to bring my kinky fantasies out into the light, examine them... indulge in them... in a safe and non threatening environment.
Roleplaying can be therapeutic.
Now, I wouldn't advise everyone to use the kink as a cheap form of therapy, but it can be better than a self help book. My need for caring authority? Punishment and cleaning the slate? I have always said that I am in the process of growing into myself. Roleplay has afforded me the opportunity to examine things about myself and has offered parts of me the chance to heal.
Roleplay is sex for the brain.
Choosing a character. Setting the scene. Deciding on appropriate props. A good roleplay takes work and creativity. It requires imagination. Practice. And communication.
I love to think... to brainstorm... to analyze. I like figuring out what makes people tick... what gets my groove on. I revel in the subtle details of a good scene, the work it takes beforehand, the eventual blending of real life and fantasy. It's about intensity. Communication. Trust. Testing limits. Mental attraction.
One of the many reasons Professor rocks my world? His ability to roleplay. He is very good at it. He puts a lot of time and effort into making a scene that leaves me breathless. And he does it well. That in itself makes me swoon.
Engaging the brain enhances the physical sensation of spanking.
Roleplay gives me an afterglow for days.
Spanking roleplay is like walking into your own secret garden... a place where time stops. It is the very best of the kink; the fantasy... the thrill... the excitement. It builds intimacy, makes memories and gives two people something very personal to share.
Why do I love roleplay?
Because it is amazing and swoony, and challenging and exciting. Because it is healing. Because it is creative. Because it is something different. Because it can be so good, seem so real, be so intense that for the time being, you manage to lose yourself in it. Because it is fun, that's why.
So why roleplay? What's in it for me? For us?
Roleplay is about freedom.
I know for some, playing a role, someone other than themselves, may seem silly or "too fake". The idea of dressing up in a short plaid skirt and being spanked like a schoolgirl may seem foolish. But I love roleplays, especially those that by the nature of their dynamic, hit my major emotional and psychological triggers.
Roleplay gives me freedom...it allows me to express myself. In my daily life I am confined to various roles... personality characteristics that represent just *part* of who I am. I am confined to a particular role with my family, peers, and in my community. Getting out of my usual role frees me from the inhibitions and baggage that goes with it.
Am I saying that the inhibitions or baggage associated with my "regular life" are bad? No... what I am saying is that I, like most, have a multidimensional personality and roleplay affords me the opportunity to express those other parts of myself... my inner parts that I have a harder time expressing. It releases me from the restrictions *I* put on myself in my daily life.
Why is it that children dream of being fairy princesses... brave knights fighting fearsome dragons... racecar drivers in the Indy 500? Because it is fun...fantasy is fun and because they get to be something they aren't in real life. They get to exhibit behaviors and "try on" characteristics associated with those roles.
And adult role play? Well similarly, it gives me the chance to be someone else - without all the difficulties of actually changing my life. I get to play a character with traits I want to explore, I can pick and choose the characteristics and attributes that suit my desires, and discard the rest. And I can do it for a finite period of time.
Roleplay can make me feel strong, powerful... and right.
There isn't a lot of room for insecurity in roleplay. Fantasies may seem too weird, too kinky, too wrong, too abnormal and it takes courage to own them, speak them out loud and ultimately, indulge in them. The wonderful thing about roleplay is that it is fantasy, not reality and being able to share it with someone who "gets it"... well, that's pretty damn cool.
Roleplaying is a way for me to say it out loud.
Finding Professor was a big self esteem builder because I found someone who not only listened to my "weird, kinky needs" but also shared them. He made me feel normal... confident that my kink was okay... that I was okay.
Roleplaying allows me to express my inner self. It allows me to bring my kinky fantasies out into the light, examine them... indulge in them... in a safe and non threatening environment.
Roleplaying can be therapeutic.
Now, I wouldn't advise everyone to use the kink as a cheap form of therapy, but it can be better than a self help book. My need for caring authority? Punishment and cleaning the slate? I have always said that I am in the process of growing into myself. Roleplay has afforded me the opportunity to examine things about myself and has offered parts of me the chance to heal.
Roleplay is sex for the brain.
Choosing a character. Setting the scene. Deciding on appropriate props. A good roleplay takes work and creativity. It requires imagination. Practice. And communication.
I love to think... to brainstorm... to analyze. I like figuring out what makes people tick... what gets my groove on. I revel in the subtle details of a good scene, the work it takes beforehand, the eventual blending of real life and fantasy. It's about intensity. Communication. Trust. Testing limits. Mental attraction.
One of the many reasons Professor rocks my world? His ability to roleplay. He is very good at it. He puts a lot of time and effort into making a scene that leaves me breathless. And he does it well. That in itself makes me swoon.
Engaging the brain enhances the physical sensation of spanking.
Roleplay gives me an afterglow for days.
Spanking roleplay is like walking into your own secret garden... a place where time stops. It is the very best of the kink; the fantasy... the thrill... the excitement. It builds intimacy, makes memories and gives two people something very personal to share.
Why do I love roleplay?
Because it is amazing and swoony, and challenging and exciting. Because it is healing. Because it is creative. Because it is something different. Because it can be so good, seem so real, be so intense that for the time being, you manage to lose yourself in it. Because it is fun, that's why.