Spanking Journey Anniversary
What are you thankful for, Little One? It is always good to reflect - so reflect and tell me......
Two years ago on August 1st, Professor and I met in real life and I experienced my first spanking. Looking back, I realize how much I didnt know, how brave I was for having the courage to take the step or how far I would come.
Over the last couple of days, I have looked back on the past two years to reflect, and I have gone back to reread some of my earliest correspondence with Professor. Below are a few of the questions I asked in the beginning and Professor's subsequent answers.
What am I thankful for? My patient tour guide who was willing to make the journey with me.
"You've come a long way, baby........"
Happy Spanko Anniversary Professor!
Do *you* know what I need? Sometimes I don't even know what I need in this relationship we have started.
No, Little One, I don't *know*. And I know that you don't know either. Finding out what you need will be a journey. You need a caring, experienced tour guide and a lot of courage and determination, but the destination is worth the trip. The journey itself can be fun too.
You said that everything I tell you adds another piece to the "Naughty One" puzzle and effects how you will deal with me. That sounds ominous, Professor. What exactly do you mean?
It should sound ominous. You have agreed to regularly have your bare bottom spanked by a man who has a passion for spanking, and who will be very strict with you. That should be ominous.
To clarify - everything you tell me affects how you are dealt with. I expect you to be open and honest with me at all times. If you hide things, or lie, this won't work. It can be amazingly cathartic not to have to be calculating and edit or watch what you say to someone- simply be open and honest with me at all times.
I will make your spankings what you need, Naughty One. That includes all the pieces to the Naughty puzzle: real-life transgressions, fantasies, emotional needs, turn-ons, etc. As I gather the pieces, the picture(s) of what you need become clearer.
What is the difference between a punishment spanking and a roleplay/fantasy spanking? How do we or maybe I should say, how do you define them in our relationship?
First, it is "we" that decide things like this. It is "me" making decisions in the scene, but it is "we" when discussing what "we" want.
Let me answer your question in the context of a bigger one: what kind of spankings do I want? The answer is all kinds, but I'll group spankings into 3 categories:
- Role play
- Punishment
- Spanking for spanking's sake
Being a good Professor, let me define the terms.
A role play is where a spanking is deserved, or at least called for, in the context of the role and not in real-life. The "deserved" vs. "called for in context" is a distinction of role plays. In the case of say, a sadistic prison guard/helpless prisoner roleplay, the spanking really isn't "deserved", but it is appropriate in the context of the role. Whereas a smoking, swearing, quick-witted teenager would "deserve" the role play spankings she got.
A punishment spanking is when you really deserve it and I want you to *ask* for them. This is not to say that I won't tell you that I think you deserve one - I am saying that I expect you to ask for punishment when you think you deserve it, without my prompting, too.
Punishment spankings are meant to make you feel remorse. This is more emotional than it is physical, and that is why you believing that you deserve it is an important part of it. You need to know that what you will get will make you a truly sorry young woman. That means the tone, and the spanking itself, will be hard.
Punishment spankings are meant to make you cry real tears but this doesn't necessarily mean tears of pain. It is tears of remorse that the pain accentuates. We will find certain positions and implements that you truly fear and I will use them when you deserve them, Naughty One.
On both the role play and punishment spankings: be aware that it often takes "practice" to get them to be ideal. Good communication out of scene and a good connection is important to getting there.
The final kind of spanking is spanking for spanking's sake. Let's say hypothetically that you have been relatively good recently (a stretch, I know, Naughty One :) ) and that we want to meet to have a scene that is simply about the spanking. Maybe you want a general stress relief spanking where we don't talk much and you just want to bury your head in a pillow and quietly cry while your bottom is being spanked. No specific transgression to think about, just that you are fulfilling a need to have your bare bottom spanked, really spanked, by someone who understands.
During a punishment spanking, do you ever feel "Spanker's remorse"?
I have never consciously thought about it (which is saying something since I have been at this a long time and tend to think about everything!), but yes, I have felt it on occasions. I would call it "Mentor's remorse" instead of "Spankers remorse" since would be the mentor in me that would feel bad that my little girl honestly needed this.
It doesn't happen all the time because not all of my spanking experiences have gotten to that level of caring. Even when it did happen, I think that I have usually continued the punishment, sometimes intensified it, since I believed that she truly needed it and that putting her needs over my remorse was important (it may sound noble to you until you are on the other end (pun intended :)) of my decision ;) ).
Two years ago on August 1st, Professor and I met in real life and I experienced my first spanking. Looking back, I realize how much I didnt know, how brave I was for having the courage to take the step or how far I would come.
Over the last couple of days, I have looked back on the past two years to reflect, and I have gone back to reread some of my earliest correspondence with Professor. Below are a few of the questions I asked in the beginning and Professor's subsequent answers.
What am I thankful for? My patient tour guide who was willing to make the journey with me.
"You've come a long way, baby........"
Happy Spanko Anniversary Professor!
Do *you* know what I need? Sometimes I don't even know what I need in this relationship we have started.
No, Little One, I don't *know*. And I know that you don't know either. Finding out what you need will be a journey. You need a caring, experienced tour guide and a lot of courage and determination, but the destination is worth the trip. The journey itself can be fun too.
You said that everything I tell you adds another piece to the "Naughty One" puzzle and effects how you will deal with me. That sounds ominous, Professor. What exactly do you mean?
It should sound ominous. You have agreed to regularly have your bare bottom spanked by a man who has a passion for spanking, and who will be very strict with you. That should be ominous.
To clarify - everything you tell me affects how you are dealt with. I expect you to be open and honest with me at all times. If you hide things, or lie, this won't work. It can be amazingly cathartic not to have to be calculating and edit or watch what you say to someone- simply be open and honest with me at all times.
I will make your spankings what you need, Naughty One. That includes all the pieces to the Naughty puzzle: real-life transgressions, fantasies, emotional needs, turn-ons, etc. As I gather the pieces, the picture(s) of what you need become clearer.
What is the difference between a punishment spanking and a roleplay/fantasy spanking? How do we or maybe I should say, how do you define them in our relationship?
First, it is "we" that decide things like this. It is "me" making decisions in the scene, but it is "we" when discussing what "we" want.
Let me answer your question in the context of a bigger one: what kind of spankings do I want? The answer is all kinds, but I'll group spankings into 3 categories:
- Role play
- Punishment
- Spanking for spanking's sake
Being a good Professor, let me define the terms.
A role play is where a spanking is deserved, or at least called for, in the context of the role and not in real-life. The "deserved" vs. "called for in context" is a distinction of role plays. In the case of say, a sadistic prison guard/helpless prisoner roleplay, the spanking really isn't "deserved", but it is appropriate in the context of the role. Whereas a smoking, swearing, quick-witted teenager would "deserve" the role play spankings she got.
A punishment spanking is when you really deserve it and I want you to *ask* for them. This is not to say that I won't tell you that I think you deserve one - I am saying that I expect you to ask for punishment when you think you deserve it, without my prompting, too.
Punishment spankings are meant to make you feel remorse. This is more emotional than it is physical, and that is why you believing that you deserve it is an important part of it. You need to know that what you will get will make you a truly sorry young woman. That means the tone, and the spanking itself, will be hard.
Punishment spankings are meant to make you cry real tears but this doesn't necessarily mean tears of pain. It is tears of remorse that the pain accentuates. We will find certain positions and implements that you truly fear and I will use them when you deserve them, Naughty One.
On both the role play and punishment spankings: be aware that it often takes "practice" to get them to be ideal. Good communication out of scene and a good connection is important to getting there.
The final kind of spanking is spanking for spanking's sake. Let's say hypothetically that you have been relatively good recently (a stretch, I know, Naughty One :) ) and that we want to meet to have a scene that is simply about the spanking. Maybe you want a general stress relief spanking where we don't talk much and you just want to bury your head in a pillow and quietly cry while your bottom is being spanked. No specific transgression to think about, just that you are fulfilling a need to have your bare bottom spanked, really spanked, by someone who understands.
During a punishment spanking, do you ever feel "Spanker's remorse"?
I have never consciously thought about it (which is saying something since I have been at this a long time and tend to think about everything!), but yes, I have felt it on occasions. I would call it "Mentor's remorse" instead of "Spankers remorse" since would be the mentor in me that would feel bad that my little girl honestly needed this.
It doesn't happen all the time because not all of my spanking experiences have gotten to that level of caring. Even when it did happen, I think that I have usually continued the punishment, sometimes intensified it, since I believed that she truly needed it and that putting her needs over my remorse was important (it may sound noble to you until you are on the other end (pun intended :)) of my decision ;) ).